Is it a bad analogy? What extra effort do you go through to defer to another person about their gender? If anything it's less effort than remembering two names.

Is it a bad analogy? What extra effort do you go through to defer to another person about their gender? If anything it's less effort than remembering two names. Please explain it to me because it seems awfully bigoted to perpetuate this myth that trans people are such a burden that we can't possibly treat them like how we treat each other.