> Is one outcome preferable over another? Preferable to who, and why? For me personally, I believe the outcome in which these feelings went away without me act

> Is one outcome preferable over another? Preferable to who, and why? For me personally, I believe the outcome in which these feelings went away without me acting on them (by which I especially mean hormones and surgery) is much better for me than one in which they stuck around and I did act on them. And I'm sure I'm not the only person for which this true. On the other hand, I totally accept there are other people for whom the feelings are unlikely to ever go away, and for those people, if they believe that acting on them is the best option for them, it isn't my place to disagree with them. The problem is how do we tell the two groups apart? How do we help people having these feelings work out which group they belong to? I don't have any confidence that the current system is good at doing that. Part of the reason why, is that those who transition have their stories celebrated by much (of course, not all) of the culture, while those who remit without transitioning (or who detransition) are mostly hidden in the shadows. That ends up presenting the former stories as more valid than the later, something which I see as problematic.