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My view on gender is the same as anything else. We should accept the cards we're dealt and focus on our strengths. Nobody is making you focus on your problems,
by cryptica 5y ago
My view on gender is the same as anything else. We should accept the cards we're dealt and focus on our strengths.
Nobody is making you focus on your problems, you can choose what to focus on. If you were born as the wrong gender, why would you focus on that? You will probably never win that battle. You can never be satisfied because you will never have what most other people have. You should try to focus on other things where you actually have a reasonable chance of success; of feeling satisfied.
Most people are deepy dissatisfied with certain aspects of themselves and if you ignore these things long enough and focus on other things intensely, eventually, after a decade or two you may stop caring about your complexes completely.
- freemint 5y agoWhile this adopting this positive attitude will improve anyone's situation it might in fact only lead to a local Optima in the wellbeing of certain people and I find it unfair to restrict them away from a path leading to better solution for them. Not everyone works as you do.
- cryptica 5y agoIn my case, I focused away from my personal complexes for so long that nowadays I don't care about them at all. The negative emotion is completely gone. When I was younger, I was obsessed with my appearance and the sound of my voice. Thinking about them constantly and always feeling terrible about myself 24/7. Stuck in a loop. This led to a constant sense of self-loathing and kept my self-esteem low which probably made things worse. I had to bury myself in something difficult for years and really struggle at it in order to escape these negative feedback loops.