No, it wouldn't be a pain for me or most people. The point I was making is that giving someone a nickname they don't like is completely different from not call

No, it wouldn't be a pain for me or most people. The point I was making is that giving someone a nickname they don't like is completely different from not calling someone a nickname they prefer. Regarding nicknames, I do sometimes interact with people that have nicknames that I'm not comfortable with or the thought of using that name for them doesn't seem respectful. For example, I took a two week class that was taught by former astronaut Sherwood "Woody" Spring. His peers all called him Woody but it seemed too personal for the teach-student relationship we were in and I defaulted to calling him Mr. Spring. He didn't mind that. I suspect the majority of people that go by nicknames don't really mind when people call them by their given name or a formal version of their name. Generally I think nicknames are just a bad analogy for gender, so we shouldn't use the comparison at all.