Yes funnily enough those who wanted to "Just have a discussion" were the ones who forced us into this mess in the first place. People might not like "having th

Yes funnily enough those who wanted to "Just have a discussion" were the ones who forced us into this mess in the first place. People might not like "having their identity being debated" but people also don't like having their opportunities taken away or being forced into situations they don't feel comfortable in or ones that threaten their safety. I think the best thing for you to do in situations like this is quietly listen to the counter points being given to you and gently and wholesomely get your hands off of the people and their lives that you are reaching for. It's really not something you are entitled to have or control.