You're both looking at the same problem but one is describing the horse and one is describing the cart, we're not sure which goes first but only one of us has a

You're both looking at the same problem but one is describing the horse and one is describing the cart, we're not sure which goes first but only one of us has any agency to tip the scales and that's employers. Employees will do whatever is best for them, but an employer can attempt to make sure what's best for them is to stay at their company.