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Note, you start with > Not in your control, and can't change but end with > you will feel better. You will change fwiw, it sounds like you landed on agreein

• popcornminute2 5y ago
  No. The result is the same, which I admit is confusing. You should notice by the end that the two you's are different, and they are two distinctly different ways of modeling the world. The deeper question is, what is change? And, what are you? The first "you" is ego-centric. It's "what's wrong with me me me, I can change me me me". But that would never lead to the solution which is simply to remove "me" from the problem and just listing all the problems in your life. You wouldn't describe that as "you are in control, you can change". You would't seek self-help or self-motivation or self-worth. You would simply describe that as "I solved my problems, maybe I can help you with yours". You don't have to change, because you are not your problems. This self-this self-that thinking is a deadend. That's the point. "I must change" is the goal most start with. Changing everything else in your life is how you arrive at achieving it. "I" never had to change. "I" self adjusts as the result of everything near it. But "I" has power over everything near it. That's the paradox of the selfless sovereign individual. In contrast, the selfish sovereign individual makes the most sense to most people in western society, which accounts for where we are.