> I'm having trouble following why this would be a contradictory set of requirements from women vs simply a pickier set of requirements compared to men. I thin

> I'm having trouble following why this would be a contradictory set of requirements from women vs simply a pickier set of requirements compared to men. I think the contradiction is that women over text might want a loving, caring guy - someone that is romantic, replies to messages and is thoughtful. Most women will rationalise this romantic guy, while time after time will end up with the “bad boys”. Why? Raw attraction kicks in. And raw attraction isn’t something you rationalise, it’s an instinct that sits somewhere in your gut. And unfortunately, the type of guys they are attracted to might be different to what they logically want to be attracted to. It’s exactly the same with guys too - I’ve really wanted to be in love with girls in the past that I can rationalise would be great partners, but there is a disconnect between the gut and the head. (As a side note, I agree on suggesting a meet sooner rather than later - the main reason for me is because I don’t believe the level of attraction over app is a particularly strong indicator of the level of attraction when you meet, or at least not as strong of an indicator as you might expect)