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I’m afraid that’s quite a bit of self referential bias. So let me raise your hopes with some of mine: I met my wife when she was 30 and already had 2 kids. We’v
by dstick 5y ago
I’m afraid that’s quite a bit of self referential bias. So let me raise your hopes with some of mine: I met my wife when she was 30 and already had 2 kids. We’ve been together for 16 years now, got 2 daughters (so 4 children in total), and are nothing like the individuals we were 16 years ago. We’ve grown together, we’ve grown separately - we’ve changed yearly. Since you’re aware of it now: don’t become an individual with rigid expectations and assumptions. Life is constantly evolving.
Aim to hit 80 and still shake your head at the person you were when you was 70 ;-)
Here’s one of my favorite quotes that feels relevant:
“We thought of life by analogy with a journey, a pilgrimage, which had a serious purpose at the end, and the thing was to get to that end, success or whatever it is, maybe heaven after you’re dead. But we missed the point the whole way along. It was a musical thing and you were supposed to sing or to dance while the music was being played”
You can find love at any age.
- Dragonai 5y agoI love that quote. :) Thanks for sharing.
- cfcf14 5y agoThanks for sharing this lovely anecdote, and for the positive sentiment. Unfortunately I do agree with the person you're replying to - these days, it is vanishingly unlikely to find a partner past your early 30s. Only a tiny proportion of the adult population in most western countries is single, and asymmetries in the dating pool induced by modern modes of meeting people (ie: apps) have radically upended traditional ideals about coupling and compatibility. Respectfully, if you met your partner 16 years ago (congrats by the way!), that might as well be a completely different world than the one we live in now. I sympathise with the GP's expression of urgency.
- Jommi 5y agoI am really really challenging your sentiment - we live in a time where more and more people than ever stay single even in their early 30s. Especially the gender balance there has changed immensly. What evidence do you have to the contrary?
- daybadone 5y agoI am genuinely finding myself unable to even come up with an argument against why, with todays dating landscape, a guy in his 30s isn't better off literally teying to kidnap and rape women to get them pregnant, then keep hostage long enough that abortion is impossible. Might genuinely be the better odds for not failing to reproduce than actually dating. I eont like this but I'm completely serious.in that I cannot think why it isn't true anymore.