You seem already aware that your "overly critical" attitude is somehow mismatched with what you do value. That's the hard part. "Successful people are good at w

You seem already aware that your "overly critical" attitude is somehow mismatched with what you do value. That's the hard part. "Successful people are good at working with others" - i.e. there's something valuable and worthwhile about others, or why work with them? Many people will push you around if they can, like opportunistic bullies. It's similar to brownian motion, with people filling any gap you leave (like if when waiting to turn when driving, you are too hesitant, many people won't let you in). Is it rudeness, or just human flocking behaviour? The answer is to take up the space that is yours. This is a better defence than misanthropy. Being bullied for years can distort you own natural flocking behaviour. Some people are smarter than you, know something you don't, or have experiences/perspective to see something you haven't. By not noticing this in others, you miss out on all that valuable stuff.