> why not move? Maybe you have kids, and don't want to take them away from their school. Maybe you have kids with an ex, and you're legally not allowed to mov

> why not move? Maybe you have kids, and don't want to take them away from their school. Maybe you have kids with an ex, and you're legally not allowed to move more than N miles from your ex without their agreement. Maybe you're heavily invested in your community with friends, family, church, sports, etc. Maybe you can move, and get a job somewhere else, but for some reason your partner is much less likely to be able to. It's not that moving is always impossible. Heck moving might truly be the better idea. But it can be extremely costly socially to move, and even then it isn't necessarily going to actually solve your problem.