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So I think this expectation that work provide social connection only works for some people. I like the people I work with, but I have no need to spend time with

So I think this expectation that work provide social connection only works for some people. I like the people I work with, but I have no need to spend time with them in person because I have other social outlets. If I have to participate in another social scene because someone I work with is lonely, that’s gas out of my tank to solve their problem. I don’t really have a lot in common with my coworkers except we work together. Join a casual sports league or a club or something but don’t make me pretend to be your friend just to draw a paycheck. This is one aspect of work I have no interest in restarting.

WFHRenaissance 5y ago
Agreed. At the risk of being a jerk I really want to tell people: 1. Get a life worth working for. 2. Maybe spend less time working.
kelnos 5y ago
This is the thing that really annoys me, the suggestion that I have an obligation to solve the personal-interaction needs of my co-workers. I have become genuine non-work friends with some (former and current) co-workers. But there are many with whom I have no interest in being friends, or even talking to them for one second more than is necessary for us to get our jobs done, and that's ok. I shouldn't be forced to fulfill their social needs; that's their job to do on their own time.