My family got into this "tough love" garbage. It destroyed our family relationship so badly that in my teens I ran away and didn't speak to anyone in the family

My family got into this "tough love" garbage. It destroyed our family relationship so badly that in my teens I ran away and didn't speak to anyone in the family for 20 years. And even now, decades later, we are still very distant. That's how well tough love worked out for us.