To me, trauma is when your gut tells you something is wrong but your ego/mind chooses to ignore it. In this case it's impossible to think that you're not safe

To me, trauma is when your gut tells you something is wrong but your ego/mind chooses to ignore it. In this case it's impossible to think that you're not safe with your parents and then they hand you over to one of those camps. In my own case, i've learned early that mum isn't safe and trusted dad more. Something was up, the body knew. When he split and didn't want me, that's when trauma occured. I'm almost 40 now and only pulled my life together 2 years ago. Be honest with your kids. They can handle the truth, but never lies... it's okay to not love them, but lying about it... really sad.