Every single time I've seen somebody not using ORM on something more complicated than a todo list side project, the alternative becomes an imposible to understa

Every single time I've seen somebody not using ORM on something more complicated than a todo list side project, the alternative becomes an imposible to understand and maintain mess of joins, custom made query builders, manual computation of computed fields, custom calls to fetch related data and hand made crappy shell scripts to do schema migrations. Also, most of the times this happens to come always from ecosystems which don't have a good ORM... such as Go, Node (up until recently... Prisma is pretty good), etc.