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> Don't allow other people to control your feelings. 1. You offer this as an excuse for profound hostility and rudeness from someone in a position of power. 2
by TomSwirly 5y ago
> Don't allow other people to control your feelings.
1. You offer this as an excuse for profound hostility and rudeness from someone in a position of power.
2. Every human has buttons that can be pressed and you are no exception.
3. Bullying behavior by someone who has power over others logically causes fear in the target of the bullying.
4. Bullying works. That's why people do it, even though it's a cheat. You are literally blaming the victim.
"Don't allow other people to control your feelings" as a response to a man with a career of bullying shows a profound and perhaps pathological contempt for the well-being of others.
- WalterBright 5y agoIt isn't blaming the victim any more than taking a self-defense class is blaming the victim. Nor is it making excuses for bullies any more than locking your door at night is excusing thieves.
- jolux 5y agoI mean you said that behavior that offends is partially the fault of the person taking offense, I don’t understand how that’s not blaming the victim here. Having a thick skin is important but I question your priorities when your response to somebody not wanting to be woken up by a screaming phone call at 3am is “there’s no crying in baseball.”
- WalterBright 5y ago> you said that behavior that offends is partially the fault of the person taking offense I did not say that. Please read more carefully.
- jolux 5y ago> It takes two to make an offense - one to give offense, the other to take offense. Don't take offense, and there is no offense. What else does this mean?
- WalterBright 5y agoIt does not mean the offendee is responsible for the behavior of the offender. It means the offendee is responsible for the offendee's reaction. Very, very different.
- jolux 5y agoThat’s true, but something should also be done to correct the behavior of the offender, which is what I think most of this thread is talking about.
- WalterBright 5y agoAt least one poster in this thread has attempted to bully me. He failed - and not because anyone tried to correct his behavior. It's because his insults do not affect me.
- jolux 5y agoThere are multiple ways to stop people from being bullied and harassed. We shouldn’t leave it on everyone to defend themselves, but set baseline standards of acceptable behavior. This is uncontroversial as far as government in general is concerned. For whatever reason, people seem to get upset about it when organizations try to enforce standards that are more stringent than the law.