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I've been struggling with the same issue. I have a team lead who, if they have no good feedback, will fabricate an issue with my code during PR reviews, no mat

I've been struggling with the same issue. I have a team lead who, if they have no good feedback, will fabricate an issue with my code during PR reviews, no matter how trivial. I sometimes have to take a step back and laugh. I understand some people may be under the illusion that they must give feedback no matter what, at the risk of seeming unsavvy, but it's starting to become ridiculous, and it seems more about competing with me rather than giving me genuine, constructive feedback. I make sure to thoroughly document my changes in my commit messages and sometimes in my comments, especially documenting who requested the change so that there's a nice paper trail. I also push back often, but the mere act of responding to feedback that does not seem honest from a team lead is traumatic. My problem is: how do you report such a passive-aggressive person? A single request or question on its own seems benign and not particularly harassing, but the overall trend is a huge red flag. To be honest, I'm not sure much can be done. If you decide for whatever reason that you cannot leave, the best way to deal with a passive aggressive person is to erase from your memory that they are passive aggressive at all. It is a test of wills that you will win, just don't lose your cool. Never forget that a passive aggressive person is a fundamentally insecure person, and then you will always have the upper hand.

fridif 5y ago
I am simultaneously sad and a bit relieved that others are also struggling with a problem that I thought was uniquely mine! This is genuinely just an example of bad management and bad workplace politics. If the code is working and checks all the boxes, nobody in the organization should be allowed to say "I personally do not want your code to be deployed", especially if other developers dont face such restrictions. The simple solution is to leave, but I am growing tired of job hopping. If I can land a job as a lead, or at least a place that has autonomy, I am pledging not to do such things to those "beneath" me, as if that word was even true.

fridif 5y ago

I am simultaneously sad and a bit relieved that others are also struggling with a problem that I thought was uniquely mine! This is genuinely just an example of bad management and bad workplace politics. If the code is working and checks all the boxes, nobody in the organization should be allowed to say "I personally do not want your code to be deployed", especially if other developers dont face such restrictions. The simple solution is to leave, but I am growing tired of job hopping. If I can land a job as a lead, or at least a place that has autonomy, I am pledging not to do such things to those "beneath" me, as if that word was even true.