> Generally, ignore anyone who is militant that there is only one correct decision (having kids or being childfree). This is good advice for any mindset or ide

> Generally, ignore anyone who is militant that there is only one correct decision (having kids or being childfree). This is good advice for any mindset or ideology. Unfortunately most people seem to gravitate towards this kind of black and white thinking. But to be reasonable it's always important to consider that there's not always one solution. > Ignore anyone who harbors hatred or loathing for children in general (kids are people too). I would say take the most extreme ends of any ideological spectrum lightly. They may make a few good or useful points among their otherwise un-relatable views. Not sure why you say "kids are people", there's nothing wrong with hating children just like there's nothing wrong with hating dogs. People don't choose their preferences and some people's preference just don't overlap with kids, dogs, cities, hiking, music, etc. > And try to ignore the parents who try to make themselves out to be martyrs by talking endlessly about how challenging their kids are. You might have to seek out the happy parents in your social circles to ask what child raising is really like, because in my experience many of the happiest and most successful parents aren’t constantly talking about how happy they are with their decision in the same way that the /r/childfree zealots are actively spreading their message. You have to look a bit deeper to find the reality. This is true of all points on the spectrum. Some of the happiest people I've met were coworkers who I found out chose not to have kids way after first meeting them, because they never talk about it. We don't shame people who choose to have kids so there's no need to shame people for encouraging a child-free life. It's only an issue if people become militant, which is much more common on the child-having side.