Also worth mentioning the other side -- people who regret not having children when they had the chance. Some older relatives told me they regretted their decis

Also worth mentioning the other side -- people who regret not having children when they had the chance. Some older relatives told me they regretted their decision shortly after my son was born. I know another couple who waited until they were in their 40s to start trying to have kids (only to have a disappointing series of miscarriages). It is a hard decision. You have limited information, especially before your first child, and you are trying to make a decision that will impact your life for at least 20 years.