>Just because you can understand someone's line of thinking doesn't mean you think like that. But when you make assumptions about what someone is thinking base

>Just because you can understand someone's line of thinking doesn't mean you think like that. But when you make assumptions about what someone is thinking based on one action then you are not "understanding someone's link of thinking", you are projecting. >The poster was making a joke based on a period when women were not considered capable of playing sports If it was a joke then obviously I overreacted. The usual clues and context ("how does the parent usually talk/joke?") are missing in text, so it's easier to miss. > I can laugh at a joke that puts someone or a group down and still not be a bigot. Totally agree. Somethings are funny precisely because they're ridiculous. >I think people who don't adjust their definitions of words/idioms to reflect modern connotations should stop holding grudges (or whatever the appropriate term is) and move on. Not sure what you're addressing here.