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At 10yo they are in like 5th grade and at an inflection point learning about human bodies, reproduction, etc. You need to educate them first about online safety

by matt_s 5y ago

At 10yo they are in like 5th grade and at an inflection point learning about human bodies, reproduction, etc. You need to educate them first about online safety, personal information (inclusive of images), potentially dangerous interactions, etc. Chances are they will want to just goof off and watch YouTube which is harmless. A comment commonly brought up here is if an employer has big brother software watching everything you do its a red flag and probably not a place one wants to work. You're essentially doing that to your kid. My kids are older but I don't monitor what they are looking at with software but I do ask what they're watching. At 10yo they probably just need supervision, not monitoring. I see those as different like I supervise employees doing work - check in on them, talk about how things are progressing, if there are barriers/issues, etc. Monitoring is more like automated micro-managing using time tracking. Educating about having time for school and time for play/goofing off is important. I would suggest different device for the online goofing off or maybe a different login. Maybe even a different location in your house so its clear that its not learning time. Play screen time for us becomes an issue if grades are slipping then they get less play screen time. If they can keep up good grades and goof off in class watching minecraft videos, then so be it.

praving5 5y ago
>If they can keep up good grades and goof off in class watching minecraft videos, then so be it. There is one thing probably that you are missing that the kids at this age should learn to respect and honour boundaries. They should known what is acceptable -vs- not. Just because you are in digital screen, does not mean you can do whatever. How would have teacher taken it if the kids watch a video during a live lecture. Sometimes, talking with kids is one thing and having them to behave correctly is different. There are also cultural issues in place :-)
- matt_s 5y ago
  Yes, I agree. If there is dead time in class, like presentation is done and its do your work time and your kid gets the work done properly and still has like 10 minutes. Are they supposed to stare at a blank screen for 10mins? This is usually when in-person they would be doodling, doing something else quietly to not disturb others. If they can be disciplined about it and still do well in school then I wouldn't have a problem as a parent.

by matt_s 5y ago

praving5 5y ago

>If they can keep up good grades and goof off in class watching minecraft videos, then so be it. There is one thing probably that you are missing that the kids at this age should learn to respect and honour boundaries. They should known what is acceptable -vs- not. Just because you are in digital screen, does not mean you can do whatever. How would have teacher taken it if the kids watch a video during a live lecture. Sometimes, talking with kids is one thing and having them to behave correctly is different. There are also cultural issues in place :-)

matt_s 5y ago
Yes, I agree. If there is dead time in class, like presentation is done and its do your work time and your kid gets the work done properly and still has like 10 minutes. Are they supposed to stare at a blank screen for 10mins? This is usually when in-person they would be doodling, doing something else quietly to not disturb others. If they can be disciplined about it and still do well in school then I wouldn't have a problem as a parent.