Me too! I hate the real time group of 10 discussions where ideas are suggested, accepted etc. and I am scared to contribute as I want to think it through. One

Me too! I hate the real time group of 10 discussions where ideas are suggested, accepted etc. and I am scared to contribute as I want to think it through. One tactic is I just ask questions that either make me understand the idea or act as a polite “that’s a bad idea” without saying it! Replaying someone else’s idea in your words is valuable. Half the time you’ll be wrong - which is good. Words are inefficient and conveying all the nuance (hence “code is the documentation” mantra). The act of having an idea repeated back helps to make sure it has passed from one person to the other and provides more scrutiny. In these ways you can be involved and valuable without thinking deeply in real time. In effect you are a QA for the people who can, who has a different perspective that is useful.