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"The only workable tactic was to distance yourself" No. You stand up for yourself and call out the dick. He attacks you and you haven't even presented yet.
by throw7 5y ago
"The only workable tactic was to distance yourself"
No. You stand up for yourself and call out the dick. He attacks you and you haven't even presented yet. When you are right, don't let bullies bully.
- chrisseaton 5y ago> No. You stand up for yourself Do you feel this is an acceptable way to respond to someone who's telling you they feel bullied? Shouting 'no' at them and telling them what they should have done instead, when presumably they felt they couldn't do that because they felt intimidated?
- ImprobableTruth 5y agoWell, that might work when talking about a situation where power is about equal, but when it's someone higher up in the chain, it's going to be much much harder.
- andrewflnr 5y agoThat's the ideal, but is often not workable, for instance if you're a kid who is not good at violence, or if the dick is surrounded by people who are already determined to tolerate his dickishness. They already know.
- jasonschlatt 5y agoWhen I imagine this scenario, and imagine the two options of a) walking away, or b) giving the guy a terse piece of my mind and walking away, I feel like in the case of picking a) when b) wouldn't have hurt me I would feel spiritually diminished. Standing up to someone bullying you is the right thing to do, spiritually speaking. You also have to stop them from bullying you, of course, and the easiest way to accomplish that is often to walk away.
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- ljm 5y agoThis is only going to end negatively if the bully has the tacit approval of all their peers. It's made clear by Matthew that the bully's behaviour was tolerated, so all likelihood is that he would be criticised for rocking the boat, potentially ostracised. At best he would get approval for it, but only in private with a "I will deny this if you say it out loud" disclaimer. Ultimately this would reflect worse on Racket's leadership team than it does on Matthias alone. They're all okay with it. If this was operated as an organisation then there would be some accountability. This is all innocent until proven guilty, of course, so it boils down to how the racket team responds, if they do.