It’s a conversation being had by parents all the time. The mistake is to think that not letting the kids do things doesn’t have an effect. More realistically

It’s a conversation being had by parents all the time. The mistake is to think that not letting the kids do things doesn’t have an effect. More realistically you are often balancing a high harm, low risk (sometime tiny, eg abduction) event against a low harm, high risk one. This is inherently difficult, but easier I think when framed this way.