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> At this point, it's sad that people would need a CoC just to follow the most elementary of courtesies. If the body tasked with enforcing the CoC is the same
by KaiserPro 5y ago
> At this point, it's sad that people would need a CoC just to follow the most elementary of courtesies.
If the body tasked with enforcing the CoC is the same one being an abusive penis, its not going to change things.
However, I agree that its pretty shocking that people seem to struggle with the basics of human interaction. Yes social conditions are indeed real(the autism spectrum et al), but that's not a cover for being a weapons grade tool.
more importantly the is no excuse to indulging these behaviours. If you see it, call it the fuck out. I don't mean "be the ally" pussy footing around. Empathise with the belittled party and redress the person(s) being a shit. Yes it will be touch and go, but unless you set boundaries, "founders" and "thought leaders" will continue to be obnoxious shits who chase the fun out of everything.
- beaconstudios 5y agoPersonally, I think trying to understand why the dynamic is occurring is more helpful. Sure, sometimes people are just assholes and need a dressing down, but more often things are a bit more complex - they should still be confronted about their behaviour, but just giving them a lashing may not help the situation compared to talking through why they are acting that way.
- KaiserPro 5y ago> compared to talking through why they are acting that way. I agree empathy must be deployed to everyone here. However there are some things that must be stopped at source. I leave that judgement to the reader.
- hendrikboom3 5y agoStopping at source can be more effective if done with empathy.