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"We are still having conversations now about the meaning of 'opening doors'. Opening doors is seen as a transgressive act for feminists since the 1960s, but act
by billybob 15y ago
"We are still having conversations now about the meaning of 'opening doors'. Opening doors is seen as a transgressive act for feminists since the 1960s, but actually the action is rooted in notions of moral purity from 1600s.
It has taken us 400 years and we still haven’t sorted out the door."
Who is the "we" in that sentence? I've never had anyone, male or female, be upset with me for opening a door. I cannot imagine respecting someone who was angry about being shown a courtesy.
- ismarc 15y agoHere in Texas, it's common to have a door held for you by a stranger, whether you are old, young,male, female, disabled or ambulatory. I think it would be downright hilarious to watch someone get angry about it.
- radicaldreamer 15y agoExactly! It's considered common courtesy by everyone, for everyone.
- ryusage 15y agoYou're right, but I suspect you're referring more to holding a door for someone, rather than making them wait a moment while you go out of your way to open it for them. I've had a female friend write off a first date because the guy seriously insisted on making her wait for him to open the car door. He thought he was being super polite, and making her feel special. She felt it was obnoxiously unnecessary, and it gave the (somewhat insulting) implication that it would somehow be wrong if she did it herself.
- sliverstorm 15y agoMen opening doors for women is a feminist issue, not an issue with rapid advances in door technology.