>The parental home can be a refuge, but also a trap that keeps young men from launching their careers. This took me a while to realize in my own experience, bu

>The parental home can be a refuge, but also a trap that keeps young men from launching their careers. This took me a while to realize in my own experience, but certainly opened my eyes to how my own parents enabled me in this trap. "Stay at home to save money!" was constantly said to me, only for me to eventually realize, it is in fact stunting me. My dad would occasionally say "go out and do something," but meanwhile, I'd be interrogated for doing said thing so they can know every detail about it. It's why I tended toward videogames and the computers in general. They were things I could do by myself without an inquisition into my own life seeing as I barely was able to do anything privately. While I personally was only a NEET for a few months at a time for about a year, I never was fully committed to the lifestyle. Ultimately for myself I had massive reality check in how the world worked and I could at least have a modicum of success in it. Partly also to blame is heavy religion not coinciding with the culture as well as not teaching a kid how to adapt to society so I always felt like an outcast. Eventually I became atheist and eventually determining what it would take for me to give up, I finally broke free. It was very much like in Office Space where you just don't care anymore. You don't care if you make a faux pas, don't care if you couldn't meet that deadline, don't care if you disappointed someone. It snapped me out of it, but also made me into a very bitter on the inside. Knowing my parents didn't exactly want me staying at their house led to further feelings of being resented for existing. So I ended up being pretty sociopathic knowing I can't tell people my true intentions for doing things. I realize it's messed up and wrong, but much like the story of the scorpion and the frog, it's in my nature. I at least am cognizant that it's wrong, but I refuse to change because I've been able to find success in it.