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It’s also a form of perfectionism. I deal with exactly what you are describing with a family member of mine. A part of his problem is that, I shit you not, I si
by runawaybottle 5y ago
It’s also a form of perfectionism. I deal with exactly what you are describing with a family member of mine. A part of his problem is that, I shit you not, I sincerely believe he thinks he is too good for a labor/service job, or community college, or coursera, or the gym, dating someone not perfect, etc. It didn’t go his way for so long, but the ego is still there. And what is the ego exactly if not an intense defense mechanism. They have lost all ability to slowly chip away at a problem.
No, you probably won’t get an office job in the next 5 years. Maybe in the next 10. No, you won’t have enough money to move out the next 5 years, but maybe in 10. Nope, you aren’t get laid anytime soon. Few people can accept the timeline and the sheer effort it will take, and the sheer time. That’s the crux of the problem, that they are truly behind and cannot deal with the time investment required.
Enough with the lies, and start from zero. The effort it takes to be just mediocre in this world is understated.
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- Taylor_OD 5y agoFor sure. I have met a few people who have these weird expectations around who they are and what they expect from life. As far as I'm concerned I'm playing with house money. I got lucky.
- Mirioron 5y agoThe issue with these timelines is: "is it worth the effort?" The more effort you have to put in the more desirable it has to be. Perhaps the 5+ year timeline means that what they want falls into the "it's not worth the effort" category. I'd like to know Mandarin, but I don't think it would be worth the effort to learn the language. Maybe if I already knew the symbols I would feel otherwise.
- runawaybottle 5y agoIf it’s not worth the effort, then you must shed the entitlement factor. If it’s not worth the effort, how can you still feel you deserve those things? We’re all human, and we all know having a career, an education, a life partner, and a family are worth it. So, who are we kidding?
- username90 5y agoIf being single and spending those years doing things you love makes you happier then why shouldn't you do it? Has nothing to do with entitlement.