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> My approach to detecting fraud is to always assume the worst possible reason why someone did something or why something happened. > It is a hell of a way to
by admissionsguy 5y ago
> My approach to detecting fraud is to always assume the worst possible reason why someone did something or why something happened.
> It is a hell of a way to live.
True, but it is the honest way to live. Especially employment/management relationships are all about manipulating, cajoling, and ultimately threatening (by homelessness and starvation) people into doing things they would not otherwise do. Things are not much better in private/social life, except maybe within some families / friend groups or between lovers during the first year or so. Life is so bleak.
- scandox 5y agoThe solution is worse than the problem if you live with this attitude. In addition it is too reductive and doesn't represent the very complex (even enjoyably subtle) interactions that go on between humans who do want something from each other. Life has many illusions and it is up to you which one you pick. The reality you are enduring is just another illusion you've settled on: except it's a crap one.
- tonyedgecombe 5y agoNot all relationships are like that. Customers buy my software because it provides some value to them, I sell it because it provides an income. It's a relationship that works to our mutual advantage. I don't manipulate them, there are no dark patterns on my web site, I don't hold their data hostage or nickel and dime them.
- roenxi 5y agoPeople do things for reasons. That doesn't make life bleak, that just means you should be careful about incentives in your relationships. Shun people who have an incentive to harm you, embrace people who have an incentive to help you and seek out people who think that their best chance at an easy life is making those around them prosper.