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> One of the big crushers of self-esteem is seeing your own post get 5 likes while a friend's gets 50. That's also a symptom of a problem outside of Facebook's
by stadium 5y ago
> One of the big crushers of self-esteem is seeing your own post get 5 likes while a friend's gets 50.
That's also a symptom of a problem outside of Facebook's control. From my personal experience, comparing myself to others has never been an authentic source of self confidence. But it's hard to remember that when modern culture and media values perfection and popularity.
Facebook is opportunistic and exploitative about it, where the entire product is engineered to be addictive keep you coming back. And so are thousands of other apps, news programs and articles, tv shows, etc.
- nineplay 5y agoThat's part of it, but I'm also sitting here with the warm satisfaction that my earlier comment is up to 12 votes. Without votes or likes, I tend to assume that no one has read my comment, or no one finds it interesting. The effort I put into posting it ( I assume) was a waste of time and effort.
- stadium 5y agoIt also depends on your motivation. The intrinsic value of writing your post maybe is worth your efforts.
- nineplay 5y agoI write to engage. I'm enjoying my time in this topic since I'm getting some response and I always upvote all responders hoping to encourage the conversation to continue. I've gotten highly upvoted comments with no responses and I find that unsatisfying.
- odshoifsdhfs 5y agoYou can do it like i have been doing in hn and reddit. The moment my account gets enough points, i just delete it and start a new one. I think this is my third in hn or so, but i have been through more than ten on reddit