w.r.t your last sentence, maybe you could seek a truthful answer from a colleague with caring responsibilities (elderly/disabled relatives and/or kids), to the

w.r.t your last sentence, maybe you could seek a truthful answer from a colleague with caring responsibilities (elderly/disabled relatives and/or kids), to the Q "Do my long hours and extra productivity stress you out by making you feel bad in comparison and would you rather I didn't?" . Its not great if others feel under pressure to do what you do too. OTOH, not great either if your own enthusiasm were to be suppressed by other people's inability to do the same. Making it work for both camps may be a delicate thing for management to handle, IMHO