Now that I think of it, that's also my experience. If I really need a project to do whatever (and can't implement the feature myself), I shut up, let the horrib

Now that I think of it, that's also my experience. If I really need a project to do whatever (and can't implement the feature myself), I shut up, let the horrible attitude wash over me and put hours of effort into testing and providing helpful information, and maintainers usually mellow out eventually. If I hadn't done all of that work, the maintainer would have had to do it. Sure, they're much better equipped to do it and can probably do it in a quarter of the time it takes me, but multiplied by fifty tickets... Oof.