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> If you care to question any aspect of something that comprises part of someone's identity, then it can easily be perceived as a personal attack on that indivi
by teachingassist 5y ago
> If you care to question any aspect of something that comprises part of someone's identity, then it can easily be perceived as a personal attack on that individual
I don't think it's healthy conversation to "question" what someone [you have just met] is saying in any circumstances.
Questioning without having a developed background and context is a polite way of calling them a liar, isn't it?
"Oh, I haven't experienced that" is less confrontational - you are not expected to have experienced it if you don't hold the same identity.
- imgabe 5y agoA discussion does not have to mean you are only talking about things you have personally experienced. It might mean things that you think should or shouldn’t happen in the future or implications about what is happening in the broader world based on your personal experiences or beliefs. If the conclusions someone draws for one of these things are based on what they consider their identity, they may be very resistant to hear any contrary opinions. A healthy (or fruitful) discussion should have room for reasonable disagreement about the meanings and implications of what one has personally experienced. You need not deny the reality of someone’s experience to draw a different conclusion from it than they do.