I teach NVC and find your summary delightful in its clarity and brevity. If you don’t mind I’d like to use parts of it when communicating the basic principles.

I teach NVC and find your summary delightful in its clarity and brevity. If you don’t mind I’d like to use parts of it when communicating the basic principles. One additional component I focus on when I help people orient with nonviolent communication is the felt sense of their emotions (calibrating their awareness of anger, sadness, loneliness, numbness, joy, content etc.) I’ve found that very useful in preventing getting lost in the intellectual/linguistic structure which may end up being misused if the speaker does not own their feelings. The other aspect is the commitment to connection as #1 priority, over getting what you want. And then, when you actually want to get what your want instead of showing compassion, or being connected, having the ability to remember and follow up on the commitment. The addiction to power, including through victim hood, is a real one, and a commitment helps in giving it up. One day at a time ;)