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This recommendation always comes up in this sort of discussion, and I wholeheartedly agree with it. This book greatly affected the way I interact with people. I
by kevinskii 5y ago
This recommendation always comes up in this sort of discussion, and I wholeheartedly agree with it. This book greatly affected the way I interact with people. It also lends itself well to just reading a random chapter here or there depending on what catches your interest.
- sillysaurusx 5y agoIt’s a good book, and I came here to recommend it too. But it didn’t help me for a long time. The key is to actually care about those around you, more than your own goals. I think this wasn’t emphasized enough. It’s also how you win your goals, most of the time.
- johnwheeler 5y agoI actually read it with a more cynical mindset. The examples he gives like the one in the 1st chapter about the gangster who was in a shootout with the police—he’d killed and robbed people—but he didn’t blame himself for the situation he was in. He actually felt very sorry for himself. Then Carnegie says “people don’t blame themselves for anything”, which in general is very, very true. It’s not a feature of human nature that makes it easier to care about others so much as it’s confirmation of my own suspicions about human behavior. There are many such confirmations in that book that made me realize I didn’t have it wrong this whole time. It made me look at human nature more objectively, take it less personally, and navigate it more effectively.