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I would have gotten an art/math degree and minored in CS instead of majoring in it. The better gender ratio and social opportunities probably would have resulte

by swiley 5y ago

I would have gotten an art/math degree and minored in CS instead of majoring in it. The better gender ratio and social opportunities probably would have resulted in a stable long term relationship by now. Plus BSCS degrees are pretty shallow (this is an ongoing trend, you can read ACM recommendations on CS curricula to see where it's been and where it's going.) You'll be teaching your self most of the immediately useful things (like git) and a minor usually covers most of the interesting stuff. There are technologies you think sound boring like Ansible that are a really good thing to learn. Companies like boring technology because it means the workers can spend time working on the product instead of cleaning up messes. I'm glad I learned Linux/vim/git but I wish I had spent a bit of time on deployment automation as well. I spent way too much time messing around with low level stuff, it doesn't matter as much as you might think. I probably could have completely skipped university if I had given more attention to some of the more abstract ideas (don't try skipping it though, you don't know what you don't know and learning it this way can be painful.)

sterlind 5y ago
> better gender ratio and social opportunities probably would have resulted in a stable long term relationship by now. you don't have to date someone in the same field. you just have to not fall into the monoculture surrounding software. it's tough to break out of, but easier now that WFH is more of an option. my partner is a nanny, for instance. we met as housemates and fell in love. we're lesbian, though, so I guess that doesn't really address the gender imbalance issue (or maybe makes it 10x worse for me?)
cableshaft 5y ago
Having hobbies that aren't computer-based and going to groups and club meetups can help with the relationship thing. I never studied board games or hiking or writing fiction in college but met a lot of people through those meetup groups.
podric 5y ago
My undergrad major had a 50/50 gender ratio and there were only a handful of romantic relationships to come out of it out of the hundreds of classmates I knew. So, I wouldn't count on finding your S/O in your university program. There are plenty of other opportunities to meet a potential S/O in college, like clubs and house parties.
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ideashower 5y ago
> you can read ACM recommendations on CS curricula would you be able to point me to this, please?

by swiley 5y ago

sterlind 5y ago

> better gender ratio and social opportunities probably would have resulted in a stable long term relationship by now. you don't have to date someone in the same field. you just have to not fall into the monoculture surrounding software. it's tough to break out of, but easier now that WFH is more of an option. my partner is a nanny, for instance. we met as housemates and fell in love. we're lesbian, though, so I guess that doesn't really address the gender imbalance issue (or maybe makes it 10x worse for me?)

cableshaft 5y ago

Having hobbies that aren't computer-based and going to groups and club meetups can help with the relationship thing. I never studied board games or hiking or writing fiction in college but met a lot of people through those meetup groups.

podric 5y ago

My undergrad major had a 50/50 gender ratio and there were only a handful of romantic relationships to come out of it out of the hundreds of classmates I knew. So, I wouldn't count on finding your S/O in your university program. There are plenty of other opportunities to meet a potential S/O in college, like clubs and house parties.

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ideashower 5y ago

> you can read ACM recommendations on CS curricula would you be able to point me to this, please?