> Why? This seem more related to gender roles or blaming yourself for abuse. Or you think that being sexually abused transforms men? Or it is purely about women

> Why? This seem more related to gender roles or blaming yourself for abuse. Or you think that being sexually abused transforms men? Or it is purely about womens lack of capacity to be into someone vulnerable? I believe the author just shared their own instinctive reaction to the event. Shame is a mechanism of our cultural and moral foundation, often tightly integrated with the roles (indeed by gender) and expectations set out for us. We may be able to reflect on their merits, and what causes shame varies in place and time but it's seldom voluntary to experience shame.