I think you're conflating two different sets of responsibilities - those of the person who is struggling, and those of the people around them. Everyone agrees i

I think you're conflating two different sets of responsibilities - those of the person who is struggling, and those of the people around them. Everyone agrees it's more virtuous to be resilient and mindful than to complain all the time. Thing is, it's also more virtuous to empathize with people than to tell them to get over themselves.