A bit harsh, but to me this is nothing but whining. The article talks about different ways of living and the trade offs associated with each. Then this comment

A bit harsh, but to me this is nothing but whining. The article talks about different ways of living and the trade offs associated with each. Then this commentary comes in with a harsh call them like they seem them framing where these ideas about life are not to be considered or discussed because they might interfere with the appearance of brave engagement or whatever it is that is being endorsed. This is kind of like the trade offs with being social or being extremely focused with little time and energy allocated to socialization. Committing to spending the time and energy to be social might generate great value from weak connections but it might also generate or expose conflicts and reveal that hardly anyone in your community sees or values things the way you do. Neither way of living is whining, they are just different ways of living. Comparing ways of living is always full of opportunities for conflict and misunderstanding, but being ready or even anxious to judge others negatively limits the ability to evaluate alternatives in a cool and realistic manner.