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It's one thing to mention it, quite another to continually moan about it day in and day out. Yes, I have empathy for your situation and if you need help, I can

It's one thing to mention it, quite another to continually moan about it day in and day out. Yes, I have empathy for your situation and if you need help, I can be there. But the rest is on you and not me. I don't need to see continual Facebook posts about it. There is quite a bit of sympathy-gathering that's taken hold and it's getting ridiculous.

ABCLAW 5y ago
"Yes, I have empathy for your situation" "I don't need to see continual Facebook posts about it." Framing someone's struggle purely in terms of how it annoys you makes you come across as something other than empathetic.
- stuff4ben 5y ago
  Clearly you didn't read all of my comment. Continually moaning about it is not doing anything about it except being a drama-queen. Yes I have empathy, but endless Facebook "woe is me..." posts are not the key to getting help.
  - ABCLAW 5y ago
    >Clearly you didn't read all of my comment. I did. I also read this post. Saying you are empathetic while also uniformly dismissing those you claim to empathize with doesn't ring too clear. No evidence of empathy, lots of evidence of dismissal. Just my 2c as someone looking at how the issue has been framed.
    - stuff4ben 5y ago
      "Reading comprehension" my friend. I said "continually moaning" as in repeatedly doing that. I have empathy, I don't have unlimited empathy. At some point when a friend or loved one just wants to post on FB about how shitty their depression is, they're not really interested in getting better but just in the attention. If you can't understand that, be thankful you don't have someone like that in your life.
avl999 5y ago
lol what a baby. Man up and block/mute someone on Facebook if you are annoyed by their posts. Stop being such a pussy and whining and bitching about it on HN. This post exemplifies everything wrong with people- everything is about you, complete refusal to take any responsibility and instead choosing to whine about things instead of choosing a simple action that will solve all your problems (the block/mute/unfriend button). I shudder to think how people like this guy will handle actual real problems with difficult solutions when you are shook by a "problem" whose solution is literally clicking a button.

ABCLAW 5y ago

"Yes, I have empathy for your situation" "I don't need to see continual Facebook posts about it." Framing someone's struggle purely in terms of how it annoys you makes you come across as something other than empathetic.

stuff4ben 5y ago
Clearly you didn't read all of my comment. Continually moaning about it is not doing anything about it except being a drama-queen. Yes I have empathy, but endless Facebook "woe is me..." posts are not the key to getting help.
- ABCLAW 5y ago
  >Clearly you didn't read all of my comment. I did. I also read this post. Saying you are empathetic while also uniformly dismissing those you claim to empathize with doesn't ring too clear. No evidence of empathy, lots of evidence of dismissal. Just my 2c as someone looking at how the issue has been framed.
  - stuff4ben 5y ago
    "Reading comprehension" my friend. I said "continually moaning" as in repeatedly doing that. I have empathy, I don't have unlimited empathy. At some point when a friend or loved one just wants to post on FB about how shitty their depression is, they're not really interested in getting better but just in the attention. If you can't understand that, be thankful you don't have someone like that in your life.

avl999 5y ago

lol what a baby. Man up and block/mute someone on Facebook if you are annoyed by their posts. Stop being such a pussy and whining and bitching about it on HN. This post exemplifies everything wrong with people- everything is about you, complete refusal to take any responsibility and instead choosing to whine about things instead of choosing a simple action that will solve all your problems (the block/mute/unfriend button). I shudder to think how people like this guy will handle actual real problems with difficult solutions when you are shook by a "problem" whose solution is literally clicking a button.