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The author is treating friendship as a transactional exchange. You obtain friends. If you're well connected, you obtain many .. .. however, it's difficult to
by lwhi 5y ago
The author is treating friendship as a transactional exchange.
You obtain friends.
If you're well connected, you obtain many ..
.. however, it's difficult to keep hold of them.
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The issue is friendship and human relations—while transactional during an exchange—are not transactional in the way recent app based culture has lead us to believe.
We maintain relationships. We need to tend to them. They change as time moves forward. We can pause; and pick things up later.
The best friendships involve high degrees of honesty, and because of that we need to be vulnerable at times. I'm not sure writing a blog post or tweet is displaying the necessary levels of sensitivity (at least on an interpersonal level) to meet this criteria.
- meesterdude 5y ago> I'm not sure writing a blog post or tweet is displaying the necessary levels of sensitivity (at least on an interpersonal level) to meet this criteria. This is an unnecessary dig on the author, and is just a bit pompous. I would counter: writing a blog post on the loss of a close friend and exploring how and why for them and in society at large; displays a high level of introspection, self awareness, and a mature relationship with their emotions. When anger and blame are the typical reactions for such an outcome, it was a mature and reasoned exploration.
- lwhi 5y agoI think it's fair. I can understand your point, but I think the response of writing a blog post is an example of continued transactionality. I'm not trying to be mean, I'm aiming to be honest.