4 ms·

I think incels attract hate because many of them online become so twisted from their pain that they end up externalizing a lot of the factors that makes them in

by least 5y ago

I think incels attract hate because many of them online become so twisted from their pain that they end up externalizing a lot of the factors that makes them involuntarily celibate, rather than accepting any personal responsibility. Discussions between incels in those communities amplify all the negative things they may be feeling and validates their opinions regardless of how absurd or offensive it may seem from an outside observer. While placing the blame on external factors can be helpful psychologically for the person suffering, it also signals to others that they are not taking any responsibility for their failure to meet their goal of well, having sex. Everyone needs compassion and arguably the worst of us need that compassion the most, but for a lot of people, that's really, really hard.

hackflip 5y ago
They aren't unlikeable because they can't get laid. They can't get laid because they are unlikeable.
- Pet_Ant 5y ago
  > They aren't unlikeable because they can't get laid. They can't get laid because they are unlikeable. Perhaps like ourobouros it feeds it self into a cycle that may amplify an initial bit of bad luck into a toxic cancer that kills it's host? The thing that I discovered about dating is that the more you do it the easier it is and the better you get at it... just like many other things... but there is no way to really start up... and even then you need to get hurt, and try again. One of my most important relationships was with someone really emotionally abusive, but I was well-aware of it, and I took it as a learning opportunity to learn various skills that have served me well.
  - deleted 5y ago
    [deleted]