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'Ghosting' is one of the most petty things imaginable. Sorry to say I judge a person's character so much by this. It's understandable that someone may not want

'Ghosting' is one of the most petty things imaginable. Sorry to say I judge a person's character so much by this. It's understandable that someone may not want to break up with their partner, but simply not responding is still terrible behaviour. I'd rather be yelled at than ghosted, at least it's candour. Summon the courage and civility to find a few empathetic words and that's that. It's odd that we teach 'knowledge' and even 'morality' in school but not 'basic manners'. I can imagine a room of teenagers laughing out loud at someone trying to teach them how to be civil and polite, and it probably wouldn't change them, however, I think that a few years later it would start to click in. As if they were 'lessons for later, when you're not an irreverent teenager'. They would at least have choices and options for human engagement, it's a form of knowledge.

clipradiowallet 5y ago
Ghosting is bad for other reasons also.. Imagine one of your parents "ghosted" you. Would you feel rejected? Or would you think something bad must have happened, and break down their door assuming they must be in duress and need assistance? That's an extreme example, but I was trying to point out that dropping off the face of the earth to avoid an uncomfortable interaction, and lead to a _much more_ uncomfortable and awkward interaction later.
- eswat 5y ago
  It would be especially bad if the person experienced ghosting-like behaviour when they were young, including from their parents. All those little events build up and can make one insecure about their relationships if any hint of abandonement is in the air, let alone complete abandonement through ghosting.
- jollybean 5y ago
  If a very significant other ghosted you it would almost invariably be an emergency. That or an extremely problematic relationship. Parents don't 'ghost' children. I mean, unless there's something very, very wrong already like an abusive relationship etc. etc.. For 'recently dating couples' the issues is that the one couple doesn't want to own up to saying 'no' so they just duck and avoid.

clipradiowallet 5y ago

Ghosting is bad for other reasons also.. Imagine one of your parents "ghosted" you. Would you feel rejected? Or would you think something bad must have happened, and break down their door assuming they must be in duress and need assistance? That's an extreme example, but I was trying to point out that dropping off the face of the earth to avoid an uncomfortable interaction, and lead to a _much more_ uncomfortable and awkward interaction later.

eswat 5y ago
It would be especially bad if the person experienced ghosting-like behaviour when they were young, including from their parents. All those little events build up and can make one insecure about their relationships if any hint of abandonement is in the air, let alone complete abandonement through ghosting.
jollybean 5y ago
If a very significant other ghosted you it would almost invariably be an emergency. That or an extremely problematic relationship. Parents don't 'ghost' children. I mean, unless there's something very, very wrong already like an abusive relationship etc. etc.. For 'recently dating couples' the issues is that the one couple doesn't want to own up to saying 'no' so they just duck and avoid.