I get your point and thank you very much for taking the time to write a detailed answer for me. Put like this it makes a whole lot of sense now, I was maybe ju

I get your point and thank you very much for taking the time to write a detailed answer for me. Put like this it makes a whole lot of sense now, I was maybe just distracted by the examples the author brought in which confused me. It really shows that there's a spectrum of possible ways on how to deal with rejection that I am not aware of. I never took rejection personally but in contrary saw it as a challenge. Maybe that helps to frame why I wrote my initial question. I agree that it's tirening to have to work twice or 3 times as hard as others for the same result and having more roadblocks on the way (metaphor for rejection) but one thing that is sure to me, I never really gave any importance to emotional rejection because that one is very subjective and I don't understand why people think how they think. I might lack the emotional intelligence? The one that might have challenged me the most was rejection at work or rejection for just having a foreign name or foreign face because the latter is a checklist with all the marks ticked but still, something didn't quite fit completely.