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Same as calling some a cunt imho. The parts of scotland i grew up in it basically means "person". And if i use it at work like this people know i am not meanin

Same as calling some a cunt imho. The parts of scotland i grew up in it basically means "person". And if i use it at work like this people know i am not meaning it the qymay it sounds but they still correct me. That discuasion leads me to have better more productive language in the future. If i cannot handle some constructive criticism thats on me. I know it can be hard for people who are very normalised to a certain way of speaking.. but thems the breaks. Better than actually being paralysed imho.. plus if i come up with another term for this i can use it with an audience that actually includes paralised people and the reference will still make sense. No body expects perfect. I still swear too much at work and i still accidentally throw in metaphorical adjectives that belong in the past. But i am better at it than my grandpa (not that i ever heard him say cunt :) )

lnenad 5y ago
Slang != Proper non-insulting terms that somebody finds insulting. The original comment was related to the word paralyzed which is miles away from using the word cunt and a pretty stupid comparison tbh.
- goodlinks 5y ago
  Fair comment, though the word slang is doing a lot of judgement work and the whole point is that offensivity is subjective. I chose that word as its right out there on the spectrum but genuinely seems totally harmless to me and means person with some additional flavour and familiarity. I am not recommending the usage of the word. Just pointing out that my comfort with it doesnt make it okay to use. Agreed that it probably totally failed to getthe message across.. i guess as someone who grew up in a dialect i am used all kinds of moderation and consideration for the listner, and so i don't buy these hard done by arguments over being respectful. I cannot talk in a way that the thoughts come in to my head outside a ridiculously small number of people and to me, it only adds to the richness of life and my personal growth. Ymmv We are imobilised, we have lost all the momentum we had. Can we get back some of that dynamism we had prior to change x.. i dont see an issue with finding other ways to talking and if it turns out that those ways of speaking offend people i bet i willlearn somenew perspective when i hear why. This is not a newspeak situation. This is just listening and trying to cause less pain.

lnenad 5y ago

Slang != Proper non-insulting terms that somebody finds insulting. The original comment was related to the word paralyzed which is miles away from using the word cunt and a pretty stupid comparison tbh.

goodlinks 5y ago
Fair comment, though the word slang is doing a lot of judgement work and the whole point is that offensivity is subjective. I chose that word as its right out there on the spectrum but genuinely seems totally harmless to me and means person with some additional flavour and familiarity. I am not recommending the usage of the word. Just pointing out that my comfort with it doesnt make it okay to use. Agreed that it probably totally failed to getthe message across.. i guess as someone who grew up in a dialect i am used all kinds of moderation and consideration for the listner, and so i don't buy these hard done by arguments over being respectful. I cannot talk in a way that the thoughts come in to my head outside a ridiculously small number of people and to me, it only adds to the richness of life and my personal growth. Ymmv We are imobilised, we have lost all the momentum we had. Can we get back some of that dynamism we had prior to change x.. i dont see an issue with finding other ways to talking and if it turns out that those ways of speaking offend people i bet i willlearn somenew perspective when i hear why. This is not a newspeak situation. This is just listening and trying to cause less pain.