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"Everyone" is a very blanket statement. How do you know the people suggesting "Just go, don't be shy!" aren't speaking from personal experience? I think "conqu
by coenhyde 15y ago
"Everyone" is a very blanket statement. How do you know the people suggesting "Just go, don't be shy!" aren't speaking from personal experience?
I think "conquering your fears" is an important life lesson. You shouldn't shelter yourself or others from things they fear. That never seems to help anyone.
I know exactly how the OP feels. I grew up in a small country town and moved to the big city. Going to these sorts of things used to make me break out in a lather of sweat and my heart beat would be going so fast i'd barely be able to speak. Lucky for me I'm a bit of an adrenalin junky.
Social skills are are just like any other skill. The more you do it the better you get. And unless you expose yourself to experiences where you can practice your skill you're not going to get any better.
- pavel_lishin 15y ago> Lucky for me I'm a bit of an adrenalin junky. I'd wager most shy people aren't. I'm not. I met a bunch of redditors after moving to New York, but only after meeting them all in IRC first. It would have worked out fine, but it saved me a lot of pain and effort. Yes, you need to learn more skills, but you can wade in instead of going for the high dive right off the bat.