Not only is it relevant, it has been the basis of my entire argument. Whether or not someone does something awful because they lack the ability to express thems

Not only is it relevant, it has been the basis of my entire argument. Whether or not someone does something awful because they lack the ability to express themselves any other way apart from violently, isn't a failure of mine. That lies entirely with them. Also; note how your argument has devolved from talking about the issue, to talking about "people like (me)" - this happens often when people argue from emotion, not reason. I also never said I hated anyone - that is your (mistaken) inference, which again lends credence to the fact that this is an emotional trigger for you.