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It really is interesting how bullying as a thing seems much less prominent in College. You still have things like hazing in frats and such but the frats are opt

It really is interesting how bullying as a thing seems much less prominent in College. You still have things like hazing in frats and such but the frats are optional, of course. It's easier to dismiss it as a maturity thing but it might have a little to do with how kids are crammed into the same spaces with the same people, good and toxic while in college somehow it seems less so.

Zababa 5y ago
Another thing is that I'm in France. Where I went to college, there were no frats. We had a small association but it was like 50 people out of the thousand in CS that went to their events, and they were pretty tame. On the other hand, the equivalent of frat culture is very present in medical school. > It's easier to dismiss it as a maturity thing but it might have a little to do with how kids are crammed into the same spaces with the same people, good and toxic while in college somehow it seems less so. I totally agree. Maybe that's just psychological, but as I mentionned my college was "open", at any point I could just walk away. In high school, and before, there always were big wall between me and the exterior, and every exit had people making sure we didn't go outside. You really feel trapped inside with no escape. Anecdotally, the last high school I went to had a large park with lots of place to "hide", and I was often hanging out with a few friends in some "remote" places.
asdff 5y ago
Hazing is pretty common among student organizations in general in college. During undergrad, my friends in club rugby or marching band got hazed way harder than anyone I knew in any fraternity.
nearbuy 5y ago
Yeah, I think adults bully too under the right conditions, but we don't often call it that. Instead, we call the same behaviours harassment, abuse, or assault. Perhaps the worst bullying involves many people ganging up on a victim. You see this in adults too, from the literal witch hunts, to campaigns to make someone socially untouchable (or perhaps get them fired) for expressing views a group of people dislike. College just seems less conducive to bullying than high school or middle school.

Zababa 5y ago

Another thing is that I'm in France. Where I went to college, there were no frats. We had a small association but it was like 50 people out of the thousand in CS that went to their events, and they were pretty tame. On the other hand, the equivalent of frat culture is very present in medical school. > It's easier to dismiss it as a maturity thing but it might have a little to do with how kids are crammed into the same spaces with the same people, good and toxic while in college somehow it seems less so. I totally agree. Maybe that's just psychological, but as I mentionned my college was "open", at any point I could just walk away. In high school, and before, there always were big wall between me and the exterior, and every exit had people making sure we didn't go outside. You really feel trapped inside with no escape. Anecdotally, the last high school I went to had a large park with lots of place to "hide", and I was often hanging out with a few friends in some "remote" places.

asdff 5y ago

Hazing is pretty common among student organizations in general in college. During undergrad, my friends in club rugby or marching band got hazed way harder than anyone I knew in any fraternity.

nearbuy 5y ago

Yeah, I think adults bully too under the right conditions, but we don't often call it that. Instead, we call the same behaviours harassment, abuse, or assault. Perhaps the worst bullying involves many people ganging up on a victim. You see this in adults too, from the literal witch hunts, to campaigns to make someone socially untouchable (or perhaps get them fired) for expressing views a group of people dislike. College just seems less conducive to bullying than high school or middle school.