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Of course you'll feel good about venting your frustrations. But everyone around you will feel bad.
by loopz 5y ago
Of course you'll feel good about venting your frustrations. But everyone around you will feel bad.
- mjburgess 5y agoI take my initial comment as a bit of a vent. I don't really take my others as being -- unless I'm mistaken. If it is venting, then I have more sympathy with the downvote.
- loopz 5y agoIt doesn't matter so much wether you were venting or not, but how others perceive your output. Some people are great at that, while many of us are not. It's not about good or bad, skills, or anything like that. It's just, to get better results from communication, it requires anticipation how something will be received. There's often a gap between what others hear, and what someone else said. Many disagreements are just that. Often, just by replacing a word, something will be received differently. Though it's more about empathy and anticipation, being there for others and not expecting much. It's easy to be liked saying what other people want to hear. When you have things to say that people generally don't want to hear, this needs refinement how to go about it. The best way is to make people realize it for themselves, even if you don't get credit. How others hear you, matters.
- mjburgess 5y agoSure, as a side point I'm not exactly concerned about up/down votes. It was more a musing about a weirdness in downvoting behaviour; and whether there was something unintentional I was doing as a cause. I don't mind upsetting people where the upset is due to a view of mine conflicting with a view of theirs. In this way, I'm very comfortable being downvoted. A downvote here is a signal of saying something worthwhile. I find people agreeing with each other, on mass, a bit alarming if anything.