Yeah, I ran an ewtoo based telnet chat server in my early 20s, and I agree with the sentiment, though the advantage with my server was that I was pre-defined as

Yeah, I ran an ewtoo based telnet chat server in my early 20s, and I agree with the sentiment, though the advantage with my server was that I was pre-defined as having godlike powers and it was basically "choose to come to my server, or go to one of hundreds of others" - so I had to manage my behaviour or nobody would come to my server. Kind of like a private home. What I would say is "don't try to build a community that you expect to be long lasting in somebody's private home", but there's nothing wrong with going to somebody private party and even going back for another party if you liked the last one.